Living with people : - 1.The most difficult thing to do is to live in peace and harmony with people. It is, perhaps, easier to live with birds and animals. Why is living with people a problem? Youth today, is misguided, by external evil forces, such as different wings of dirty political parties and politicians - Congress, communists, all family owned regional parties, foolish media, and other evils, such as Christians and Muslims, fundamentalist / arrogant / separatist - Huriyat of Kashmir + foolish stone pelting youth, /showing dis-respect to the Nation .... .. "READ CAREFULLY, WHAT SWAMI TEJOMAYANANDA SAYS" :

Opinion
08/03/2018
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All Members,
         Respected family members of this great holy Nation.

VERY IMPORTANT FOR THE PRESENT DAY PARENTS : - to direct their children - Follow Sincerely :

Living with people :-1.  Swami Tejomayananda

The most difficult thing to do is to live in peace and harmony with people. It is, perhaps, easier to live with birds and animals. Why is living with people a problem?

We know that fire is hot and we accept that fact. If we are burnt by touching fire, we do not blame it. If a whole house is burnt down, we may condemn other factors or blame our negligence, but would accept fire as it is. Its place is undeniable and it is not rejected. Similarly, we accept the coolness of ice, the beauty of flowers, fruits, trees and plants. Again, if we are admiring a beautiful, full moon and someone else comes and starts appreciating it, we don’t say, “Why are you looking at my moon? You have no right to see it!” There is no sense of ownership, no possessiveness; there is acceptance without any projection of likes and dislikes.

The Bhagavad Gita says that a wise person moves everywhere with love and affection Like the wind blowing freely, he does not get attached to anything. He accepts all. Sometimes people behave nicely, sometimes they don’t . This neither elates nor depresses the wise person. “Such a man of wisdom lives with his senses under control, free from personal likes and dislikes, and therefore, enjoys every object, place, situation and person” .

Also, we find it difficult to live with people because we have too many expectations of them. If i expect something of another, that person may also expect something of me. Furthermore, i am unable to fulfil my own expectations of myself. I want to do so many things, but i am unable to do them. Thus, we feel disappointed and frustrated with ourselves, and aggrieved or upset with others when they fail to satisfy our expectations. I saw a sticker that said, “Don’t try to change me. Accept me as i am” .

To be continued ...

NOTE :

1. Personality traits are distinguishing qualities or characteristics that are the embodiment of an individual’s.  They are your habitual patterns of behavior, temperament and emotion.

2. Skills, on the other hand, are the learned capacity to carry out specific tasks.  They are competences or the talents to do things.  These proficiencies can include critical thinking, manual, negotiation, outdoor, presentation, or technological.  Typically, skills are special abilities that are acquired through training and experience.

3. The building block of successful career development is comprised of four components: skills, values, interests and personality traits.

4.   Successful people tend to be/have : -

    Attitude – The capacity to stay optimistic and positive.  The #1 quality for career success is “Championship Thinking.”
    Enthusiastic – The possession of intense and eager interest in a subject or cause.  It is an energy that often inspires others.
    Ethical – The quality of having and living by a code of sound moral principles.
    Goal Focused – The ability to have clarity on the objectives that you strive for in your personal and professional life.
    Listener – The capacity to suspend your own agenda and deliberately and empathically allow others to be heard.
    Networked – A well developed circle of influence of interconnected positive relationships.
    Persistent – The ability to endure in the face of adversity.  It is a patient and relenting effort to achieve despite difficulties.
    Self-Aware – The understanding and knowledge of who you are including your skills, values, interests, behaviors and character.
    Self-Confident – The firm belief in your abilities.  Seek professional help if this is an area of weakness – it will be worth it.
    Self-Discipline – The ability to control and restrain impulses.  Energy then can be focused and channeled toward your ambitions.

5.  Adaptive,     Analytical Mind,     Articulate,     Balanced,     Collaborative,     Committed,     Courageous,     Creative,     Decisive,     Detail-Oriented,     Emotionally Competent,
    Friendly,     Hard Working,     Humorous,     Intelligent,     Organized,     Prepared,     Productive,     Relationship-Oriented,     Responsible,     Sincere,     Self-Sacrificing,         Trustworthy,     Visionary,     Wise,    Honest,   Truthful,    Straight forward,   Righteousness,   Well disciplined ...etc...many more ...

Thank you for reading
           JAIHIND.
VANDE MATHARAM.