You and Yours (on parenting) :- 6.

Youth today, is misguided, by external evil forces, such as different wings of dirty political parties and politicians - Congress, communists, all family owned regional parties, foolish media, and other evils, such as Christians and Muslims, fundamentalist / arrogant / separatist - Huriyat of Kashmir + foolish stone pelting youth, /showing dis-respect to the Nation .... .. Here Swami Tejomayananda, Sishya of Swami Chinmayananda, says on Parenting... Listen carefully ...

Opinion
02/01/2018.
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                All Members,
         Respected family members of this great holy Nation.

VERY IMPORTANT FOR THE PRESENT DAY PARENTS : - to direct their children

The question of how to live the values of life is not a new one faced only in modern times. It is as old as our scriptures. This is a weakness that every person faces in his life - the contradiction between his knowledge and his living.

Sub : You and Yours (on parenting) :-6

 Swami Tejomayananda


The question, therefore, is – why are we not able to live these values?

Firstly, we do not have any deep thinking on this vision and, secondly, all these values which are told, are somebody else’s values, an imposition, and we have an aversion to something that we are told to do – like the opposition party in the Parliament. Just because it is a Government proposal, oppose it.

In logic, there are two to three methods.

The first one is where both the parties have different views but they discuss to arrive at the truth. Both of them agree that I will give up my view if we arrive at the truth. This is called a healthy discussion for arriving at the truth.

The second one is where there are two parties – they have their views and their idea is to win the argument, not to arrive at the truth.

The third type is – whatever is your view, I oppose it. If you ask him, “What is your view?” he says, “I don’t have any view but whatever you say is wrong.” There is a need for gaining the vision of oneness and understanding these values.

Nowadays we say, especially in our country, the condition has become so bad that without money nothing moves. So, a peon sitting outside the office, when asked by a visitor if the officer is inside, stretches his hand. The visitor puts some money in it and only then he gets an answer, “Yes, he is inside”. Then he is told to go and tell the officer that the visitor wants to see him. He stretches the other hand. If you ask him why he does that when he is being paid, he says that the salary is for sitting on the stool ! He is only a representative of all such people right up to the top. In such a situation, anybody who talks of values is considered mad.

To be continued ...

Note :

1. So, one vision is seeing oneness in all differences, the other is seeing only differences, while the third is taking only one part to be the whole and getting exclusively attached to one thing – that’s how people become fanatics. All these wars are fought by fanatic people.

2.
People say that religion has created all problems. No, it is fanaticism that has created problems. If I love somebody and am ready to kill another person for that sake, it is exclusive attachment.

3.
There is another problem because parents are living double standards in life. They live one kind of life, but they want the child to be different. It does not happen like that. You don’t want to be unhappy and you don’t want your child also to be unhappy and, therefore, it is necessary that we have the right values and also expose the child to those values and that kind of atmosphere.

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Therefore, You and Yours – in this value clarification, if only the vision is clear, all other things come naturally because they become only an expression of that one vision. So, if the question is, why are we not able to live the values, I have given you the reasons.

5.
We have made some kind of analysis. Your child is not different from you and you are not different from your child. Therefore, what you are, your child will be. Now you have to decide what you want yourself to be and your child to be, because the choice is yours.

Thank you for reading
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VANDE MATHARAM.