You and Yours (on parenting) :- 7.

Youth today, is misguided, by external evil forces, such as different wings of dirty political parties and politicians - Congress, communists, all family owned regional parties, foolish media, and other evils, such as Christians and Muslims, fundamentalist / arrogant / separatist - Huriyat of Kashmir + foolish stone pelting youth, /showing dis-respect to the Nation .... .. Here Swami Tejomayananda, Sishya of Swami Chinmayananda, says on Parenting... Listen carefully ...

Opinion
08/01/2018.
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                All Members,
         Respected family members of this great holy Nation.

VERY IMPORTANT FOR THE PRESENT DAY PARENTS : - to direct their children

The question of how to live the values of life is not a new one faced only in modern times. It is as old as our scriptures. This is a weakness that every person faces in his life - the contradiction between his knowledge and his living.

Sub : You and Yours (on parenting) :-7

 Swami Tejomayananda


Honesty and truthfulness have no meaning at all, because a person who is honest gets nothing. Only dishonest people get everything. This is the thinking of the people of India. I tell you one thing – if I have respect for honesty and I am not able to live up to it, it is a minor problem.

But if I say honesty is no longer a value, then it is more dangerous because then there is no limit to where I can fall down. We say that all these values are impractical in today’s world.

One person came to me and said, “Swamiji, what is this? I am so honest, but I never get anything and the other person is so dishonest and corrupt, but he gets everything.”

I said, “Who stopped you from becoming corrupt? Why don’t you also take bribes?”

He said, “Nobody gave me !”

Now, your honesty is not honesty; your truthfulness is no truthfulness.

Please think carefully. Is it true that honesty and truthfulness have no value in present day life? Superficially, it will appear that people do not respect honesty or truthfulness, but it is not true.

Everybody respects it very much, but respects it in someone else, that is the only difference. That is why when you want to employ a servant in your house; you want a sincere, honest, hardworking person.

We want to know where he worked earlier, etc. A person may earn more money by any means but he wants his treasurer to be very honest. How do the gamblers and smugglers succeed? Because their entire network depends upon honesty.

In that dishonest business they are very honest. These values are not lost, because we respect them in others. Now, if only every person tries to become that, it will be wonderful.

To be continued ...

Note :

1. So, one vision is seeing oneness in all differences, the other is seeing only differences, while the third is taking only one part to be the whole and getting exclusively attached to one thing – that’s how people become fanatics. All these wars are fought by fanatic people.

2.
People say that religion has created all problems. No, it is fanaticism that has created problems. If I love somebody and am ready to kill another person for that sake, it is exclusive attachment.

3.
There is another problem because parents are living double standards in life. They live one kind of life, but they want the child to be different. It does not happen like that. You don’t want to be unhappy and you don’t want your child also to be unhappy and, therefore, it is necessary that we have the right values and also expose the child to those values and that kind of atmosphere.

4.
Therefore, You and Yours – in this value clarification, if only the vision is clear, all other things come naturally because they become only an expression of that one vision. So, if the question is, why are we not able to live the values, I have given you the reasons.

5.
We have made some kind of analysis. Your child is not different from you and you are not different from your child. Therefore, what you are, your child will be. Now you have to decide what you want yourself to be and your child to be, because the choice is yours.

Thank you for reading
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