You and Yours (on parenting) :- 4.

Youth today, is misguided, by external evil forces, such as different wings of dirty political parties and politicians - Congress, communists, all family owned regional parties, foolish media, and other evils, such as Christians and Muslims, fundamentalist / arrogant / separatist - Huriyat of Kashmir + foolish stone pelting youth, /showing dis-respect to the Nation .... .. Here Swami Tejomayananda, Sishya of Swami Chinmayananda, says on Parenting... Listen carefully ...

Opinion
18/12/2017.
 1071.
                All Members,
         Respected family members of this great holy Nation.

VERY IMPORTANT FOR THE PRESENT DAY PARENTS : - to direct their children

The question of how to live the values of life is not a new one faced only in modern times. It is as old as our scriptures. This is a weakness that every person faces in his life - the contradiction between his knowledge and his living.

Sub : You and Yours (on parenting) :-4

 Swami Tejomayananda

4.1
 When my vision is that everything is different (visually everything is different), then the situation naturally will be that I will like one thing and dislike another; one person I will consider as mine and the other as not mine.

4.2
So, if we hear that an earthquake has taken place or there is a flood or cyclone somewhere, we get worried only if a person known to us is there; otherwise, we are not bothered.

4.3
When you see oneness in all differences, the life pattern is one; when you see everything as different, the life pattern changes because one thing is mine, another is yours and, therefore, I am concerned only with mine and have nothing to do with the other.

4.4
In crowded buses and trains, it is very interesting to watch – somebody gets a window seat and spreads out wide on the seat. He constantly looks out of the window because someone might ask him to move if he looks this side.

4.5
Even if somebody requests him to move, he refuses. Suddenly when he spots a friend, he makes place. See, as long as he saw someone else there was no place. But the moment he saw his friend, there was place.

4.6
He would make him sit on his lap also, if necessary. In oneness, there is love; in differences, I and mine, likes and dislikes are created.

To be continued ...

Note :

1. So, one vision is seeing oneness in all differences, the other is seeing only differences, while the third is taking only one part to be the whole and getting exclusively attached to one thing – that’s how people become fanatics. All these wars are fought by fanatic people.

2.
People say that religion has created all problems. No, it is fanaticism that has created problems. If I love somebody and am ready to kill another person for that sake, it is exclusive attachment.

3.
There is another problem because parents are living double standards in life. They live one kind of life, but they want the child to be different. It does not happen like that. You don’t want to be unhappy and you don’t want your child also to be unhappy and, therefore, it is necessary that we have the right values and also expose the child to those values and that kind of atmosphere.

4.
Therefore, You and Yours – in this value clarification, if only the vision is clear, all other things come naturally because they become only an expression of that one vision. So, if the question is, why are we not able to live the values, I have given you the reasons.

5.
We have made some kind of analysis. Your child is not different from you and you are not different from your child. Therefore, what you are, your child will be. Now you have to decide what you want yourself to be and your child to be, because the choice is yours.

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