You and Yours (on parenting) :- 2.

The question of how to live the values of life is not a new one faced only in modern times. It is as old as our scriptures. This is a weakness that every person faces in his life - the contradiction between his knowledge and his living.

Opinion
02/12/2017.
 1062.
                All Members,
         Respected family members of this great holy Nation.

VERY IMPORTANT FOR THE PRESENT DAY PARENTS : - to direct their children

Sub : You and Yours (on parenting) :-2.
 Swami Tejomayananda

Every person, when he lives his life, has some idea and some vision about life – whether he is conscious of it or not. But without some idea about himself and the world, he cannot live in this world. It is not possible.

Now, there are different views or visions. Our life, behaviour and our living in this world, depend upon the vision that we have about this world and about our life.

One problem is that our vision itself is not clear nor is it high. Secondly, the values conveyed to us are mostly somebody else’s. We have not assimilated, we have no conviction and we do not see any purpose in it. So, if our vision is not clear or if the values are not our own and have been imposed on us, we cannot live them.

Another point is – the earlier tendencies have become so deep rooted that habits have become our second nature and on the spur of the moment we again do the same thing. People say, “Swamiji, I know that I should not get angry, but when I get angry, I forget everything.”

I reply, “You forget everything and, therefore, get angry.” Remember, when you forget, you get angry. Only when you lose your balance, do accidents take place. It is not that we fall down and then lose balance. Emotions are so strong and overwhelming that we forget everything.

To be continued ...

Note :

1. So, one vision is seeing oneness in all differences, the other is seeing only differences, while the third is taking only one part to be the whole and getting exclusively attached to one thing – that’s how people become fanatics. All these wars are fought by fanatic people.
People say that religion has created all problems. No, it is fanaticism that has created problems. If I love somebody and am ready to kill another person for that sake, it is exclusive attachment.

2. There is another problem because parents are living double standards in life. They live one kind of life, but they want the child to be different. It does not happen like that. You don’t want to be unhappy and you don’t want your child also to be unhappy and, therefore, it is necessary that we have the right values and also expose the child to those values and that kind of atmosphere.

3. Therefore, You and Yours – in this value clarification, if only the vision is clear, all other things come naturally because they become only an expression of that one vision. So, if the question is, why are we not able to live the values, I have given you the reasons. We have made some kind of analysis. Your child is not different from you and you are not different from your child. Therefore, what you are, your child will be. Now you have to decide what you want yourself to be and your child to be, because the choice is yours.

Thank you for reading
           JAIHIND.